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Slut Shaming… STFU!

Stop with the slut shaming. Really, I mean it! It’s 2017 and we as women still have to be concerned with labels like slut and whore? Fucking hell. It astonishes me that we are still so puritanical as a society when it comes to expressing sexuality. First of all, I’m a slut not a whore. Whores get paid, get it right. I’m currently only a slut for one person but it still counts! Whores are also cool in my book; it’s an honest living. I just prefer people use the correct terminology.

If you see something you find distasteful on social media, just move along. Scrolling takes a lot less effort. Don’t make it about you when it’s not about you. I don’t feel the need to butt in and tell you what a tightass I think you’re being. On the other end of the spectrum, making unsolicited, provocative, sexually-based, and very public opinion’s about someone’s appearance is not your place to begin with, especially when it concerns a stranger or near-complete stranger. Friend’s have different boundaries that are unique to them. Strangers just sound fucking creepy. This is not that hard to figure out.

People like sex, get over it. There are already too many unfair and completely bullshit rules women are expected to comply with either implicitly or explicitly in order to be deemed “worthy of respect.” Whatever the fuck that means and it’s entirely subjective anyway. I don’t give a shit what anyone else views as undignified or unseemly or even slutty. To each their own. I still want to be treated like a human being just like everybody else.

Shaming people who dress provocatively or enjoy sex is the height of hypocrisy. We are bombarded with images of super-charged sexuality nonstop. It’s glorified in every way imaginable. Women are publicly objectified every hour of every day. Sex is used to sale everything from pickup trucks, to beer, to cheeseburgers. The list goes on. Cheeseburgers for fuck’s sake. Why are people, women in particular, unfairly chastised for expressing their sexuality on their own terms? Sex is the most natural thing in the world, not to mention it feels good. Bonus! It’s not like it’s a trivial matter either. It’s how we propagate as a species. Kind of important.

Expressing one’s own sexuality should be viewed as a natural extension of ourselves because it is. I for one have reclaimed the word slut. I will assume that you mean someone who is open and honest about their sexuality, not to mention a whole lot of fun. Sluts are awesome! Anything that happens between consenting adults is fair game. And if it doesn’t directly involve me, it’s none of my business anyway.

While we’re at it let’s also scrap the word “easy.” Jeez. Really? There have been plenty of times in my life where I have been easy. Do you know why? Because I wanted to get laid. I’m not going to apologize for that. Men never have to. However you decide to express your sexuality is unique and up to you. There is no right or wrong here as long as no one is being hurt in the process, and of course, of the age of consent. Do what makes you happy, and unless asked, mind your fucking business about what makes someone else happy.

Terms like slut and easy are most often used to describe women who like to have sex, but not with the particular guy who’s slinging the insults. Huh. I wonder why you guys find it so hard to get any action? Couldn’t be your personality or approach or anything, right? But maybe, just maybe, if you stopped degrading women altogether, starting with this juvenile name calling, you might get a better reaction from women in general. As a woman, those kinds of slurs are an immediate red flag and an indication to run, just saying.

You can’t judge someone else unless you’ve lived through their exact same situation, and even then, still no, not really because no two people are the same. Yes, people will judge you but they’re going to judge you anyway. You might as well express yourself freely. After all, people are free to be judgemental assholes. As women though, can we at least agree to band together and not refer to each other as sluts and whores or whatever derogatory comment you might use to describe another women? Life is hard enough, we women need to stick together. And we need our male allies now more than ever. Actually we need all the help we can get, and I for one thank you.